tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-59998740777134606572024-03-05T22:44:19.955-08:00Kymma's CombobulationTo put together in a somewhat mysterious manner.
To bring something out of a state of confusion or disarray.
To manufacture by some unusual or novel means.
Urban Dictionary:
combination of a whole lot of messed up shit.Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-79782925618517512212011-04-22T07:29:00.000-07:002012-08-24T06:44:03.242-07:00Day 31, the Whole30 Completed!Yes, I recognize that I have 4 more days of no dairy to be whole30 compliant for 30 days. But I made it 30 days eating no grains, no sugars, no legumes, no alcohol and 26 days with no dairy. The shortcomings were sugars of some sort in foods I ate, such as the very little bacon I had that had cane sugar (didn't even think to look for sugar there!), the few drops of sirracha I had one night that had a bit of sugar and the beef broth with the honey in it. But really people, that is trace amounts compared to the diet sodas I had multiples of a day, the candy, the peanut M&Ms, the Reese's pieces and peanut butter cups, the ice creams, not to mention the chips, crackers, and processed crap that was ruling my life! I ate more fruit than recommended and on occasion more nuts. The next time I embark on the Whole30 I will be even more compliant, but the leap from S.tandard A.merican D.iet that I was living and suffering with to this was a Grand Canyon. <br />
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So how do I feel? Did the Whole30 indeed change my life? <br />
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I feel great! I've had more energy and motivation in the last 4 weeks than I ever have before! <br />
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I dropped 11 pounds in 30 days without counting a calorie or point or worrying about eating fat. I even have saved bacon grease to use on veggies now! I cook with coconut oil and use coconut milk which are loaded in fats. I eat the skin off of chicken (a low fat NONO!), I love steak, spinach salad with oil and vinegar, and have discovered a sweet treat that is amazing in the fact that it is no processed sugar, the blueberry and coconut milk frozen treat! I had Osso Bucco for dinner and guess what, sweet potatoes taste wonderful sans butter! I have enjoyed cooking meals more than I ever have and have made a few things that really rock! But these are all lessons and changes based around food and every day living and that is just the surface of the change.<br />
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I have used food to cope with the discomforts of life for a long time. Food, sugars especially, were my way of comforting and punishing myself. I was happy with a big bowl of ice cream or mac and cheese, but miserable with the effects on my body and therefore my life. They comforted me, then made me uncomfortable, a vicious cycle. I couldn't take stairs with ease or walk too fast. I felt older than my years, sad and disconnected. I was becoming a living dead person, unable to do the things I wanted to do, I couldn't dance but for a few minutes at a club. I couldn't connect to my emotions to understand and be the person I want to be. I was stressed, depressed, and fighting the feeling that I was becoming a typical American, fat and sick. My gluttony was a reaction to the world and was also separating me from the world.<br />
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Taking off the last layer of coping allowed me to reconnect to myself, the world and my emotions. I am calm. I have goals that I know I can meet with effort and enjoyment. I danced for 3 hours straight and realized this is what life and the world are about, enjoying the vehicle that carries you through this life. <br />
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I have uncovered that I was allowing myself to become bored in exchange for security, that I was willing to live other people's dreams for me in exchange for comfort. <br />
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I learned that I could be emotionally mature. That I could sit with bad feelings and observe them, turn them over, look at them, without exploding or dumping them on someone before I understood their complexity, their roots. <br />
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I learned that the discomfort I felt with the world wasn't so intense that it could not be coped with without food. <br />
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I learned that I could let go of that pain of the injustices of life and live a great life without fear. <br />
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I learned that I can hope and if I am disappointed, I can live with that too. <br />
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I dream of living a life full of imagination and creativity. I am not going to wait for that day, I'm going to seek it. I've already started and it created anxiety, but it passed soon into pleasure at taking a risk that I could not calculate without taking.<br />
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I dream of being a runner, not necessarily a marathoner, just someone that can get up and run a few miles for the enjoyment of the breeze, the burn in my legs, the gorgeous trees, the joy of moving. I am on week 3 of 9 of training to run my first 5k.<br />
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I dream and I do. I don't wish anymore. I do. I am awake. I am connected. I am changed.<br />
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I have been covering and coping with my discomfort with the world and never understood the real difference until I stopped, cold turkey. Week 2 after quitting smoking I began to realize I had been holding my breath and that it was making me tense, the very tension that I smoked to relieve. Once I started breathing deeply to cope with the addiction and cravings, I was no longer tense. I am realizing a similar thing now that I am not eating sugar and grains. I have been eating until I was uncomfortable when I AM uncomfortable with the world. It is both comfort and punishment. I comfort myself with foods that turn on the good chemicals in my brain, while making my discomfort a reality, something I can feel as my stomach hurts and I feel sick from eating too much.<br />
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This is jut one realization on the journey. This is the beginnings of emotional maturity. I haven't always voiced how I feel, but i was terrorizing my own self, my spirit was being damaged by some of the choices I was making, not to mention my body. The thing that got me to do the whole 30 was the promise it would change my life. I am so thankful that it was a true promise. I hope to continue on this path and see all the changes I can from rebelling against my old way of surviving and begin to truly live. <br />
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<a href=http://whole9life.com/category/whole-30/><img src=http://whole9life.com/img/doing-the-whole30.jpg border =0 alt=The Whole30 Program, created by Whole9></a>Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-777814204278223512011-03-30T14:53:00.000-07:002012-08-24T06:44:19.685-07:00Day 8 of 34I have made it an entire week eating no grains, no legumes, no dairy (a little butter cooked in eggs is trace compared to my old eating habits, and NO sugar. I've had fruits and some balsamic vinegar and some of the delicious caramelized burnt stuff that leaks out of sweet potatoes. But I haven't had a candy bar, a Reese's pieces, ice cream, splenda or creamer in my coffee or a Diet Dr. Pepper in a full week! <br />
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How do I feel? Mostly good. I feel like the monkey is off my back, it's still dancing around me, but it isn't plying my lips back and inserting sweet treats, chips, cheese and all kinds of CRAP into my mouth. I can look at someone eating things I am currently not eating and not feel like I am missing something. <br />
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I am still waiting on the arrival of carb flu. I am wondering if I am in ketosis. I can't help but want to step on the scale, although I will not, I will not make one concession for this 30 days. It is more to make sure I am not gaining, because eating more fat goes against everything I know and hold dear. But the old acting class mantra comes to mind "Just trust the process." <br />
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My emotions are better than they were. I have to say that this was cycle week sans chocolate. I mean no sugar, no indulgence, no glass of wine. All who survived are very lucky. <br />
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I could very easily dive right back to my old ways of eating. But I don't want to do that. I am learning a lot about the paleo lifestyle and the science behind it. It is still confusing, but for now I don't have to adopt a new lifestyle. I am dealing with the first 30 (34) days. After that, I can make decisions about what to do moving forward. <br />
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I am still not exercising. I have a plan to train for a specific 5k. I have not committed. I will be doing some meditation on that over the next few days. I know I need to move, but yet I am resistant. Hopefully, when the sunshine returns, I will change my mind. Because I do dream of running. Yet still I sit. I'll have to work on changing my thoughts into actions. <br />
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I am sleeping like a log. I haven't really had any horrible times with food, I just breathe through any major cravings or have something paleo. <br />
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I am starting to experience emotions very high at the moment. Some situations are arising that are bringing things up for me. I guess this is what I wanted. It would have been nice if the universe had let things be calm for just a bit while I got the hang of this eating.<br />
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Yesterday, I ate my way through the day. I can't even catalog it, but it was all whole 30 approved, even if the portions weren't. I didn't have a food hangover today, so I appreciate that factor. I also feel less bloated and sleep like a rock.<br />
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Today, I had 4 egg muffins. I am not hungry at all now, so I don't want to force myself to eat, since this is a rare occasion (not being hungry).Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-30105700331350368142011-03-26T15:15:00.000-07:002012-08-24T06:44:19.686-07:00Whole 30 day 3 and a day 4 misstepWell, Day 3 was better. A bit of a headache that comes and goes. Got off early from the job and took a 2 hour nap. Food for the day: B: Egg frittata muffins, strawberries, S: lara bar, L: leftover sundried chicken over salad with balsamic vinaigrette, D: filet, brussel sprouts, carrots and stuffed mushrooms, S: Almond butter with an apple.<br />
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Today I made a misstep. We went to a local breakfast place that is too slammed to ask alot of questions. I got grilled pork tenderloin and scrambled eggs (not eating the biscuits with gravy!) but the eggs were cooked with butter. Lesson learned, always ask or don't eat it, the south is a butter region, and I can extend the 30 days to 34 to gain the full benefit.<br />
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I am having a gal pal over tonight and will be having thai beef with roasted asparagus and carrots. I'll make her some jasmine rice, and for dessert we'll have strawberries and coconut milk. I feel proud of this meal and not like I'm having to give anything up while entertaining. <br />
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Some things I'm noticing: I am tired, bordering on lethargic. I am less hungry and less obsessed in my mind with food, what I'm going to eat next, etc. I know more things challenges are ahead but hope I can meet them head on.Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-53554576168502388822011-03-25T09:07:00.000-07:002012-08-24T06:44:19.686-07:00Day 2 Whole 30So far, so good. I am enjoying the way I am eating and not missing anything yet. <br />
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Yesterday about 5pm I did start to experience some side effects from being sugarless I suppose. Headache, nausea, and dizziness. So I ate a tablespoon of almond butter, a lara bar and went to sleep. I woke up much better and cooked up some dinner.<br />
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What I ate: Egg Fritatta Muffins, strawberries, spinach, tomatoes, leftover sundried tomato baked chicken, lara bar, almond butter, curry pork chops with apples, stuffed portabellos.<br />
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Today I need some more rest. I am going to rest, rest, rest for the next few days so that I make it through this transition as easy as possible. Hope that today, day 3, I don't feel sick again.Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-68327948546690279282011-03-24T08:44:00.000-07:002012-08-24T06:44:19.686-07:00Caveman style - the Whole 30 Paleo ChallengeI'm doing it caveman style. Eating that is. Ok, more like Caveman2011.0 style. <br />
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I've been soul searching of late. I'm a challenge, goal oriented sort of gal. Normally, I select achievement based goals. But after being an overachiever in the last 6 years (gong back and graduating from college, getting married, buying a house, changing jobs 3 times, and completing my CMP cert), I'm sort of over that sort of challenge. And I am facing some challenges that my intellect can't really fix. Body/mind style challenges.<br />
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After 9 months of being a nonsmoker (WOOT!) I am having to get real about other things. I can no longer say that the reason I get short of breath after a flight of stairs is because I'm a smoker. And I don't feel as awesome as I want. My current physical state is holding my mind's desires back. And I cannot have that! <br />
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I've been kicking around the idea of a cleanse for months. But days of fruit juice and water only, meh, not really appealing to a foodie. I still wanted to do something that would make me feel better. And I'm done with counting calories, points, or whatever. I just want to eat, live and focus on creative things, not food, weight, guilt and shame. <br />
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So I came across the Whole9 website and a challenge. Challenge? I like challenges! And this challenge says it will change your life in 30 days. I like change! A change in how I view food? I'm game. The sugar master is on my back big time lately, and after freeing myself from the slavery of cigarette smoking, I crave freedom from that same freedom from food and sugar especially. "I am the master of my ship" plays over and over in my head. Let's get real though, my ship is mastered by sugar. So I have decided to rebel, be slave no more. <br />
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So I have decided to fore go some things for 30 days. Sugar (real and fake), legumes, grains and pastas, dairy, alcohol, and white potatoes. I have consumed more of these items than my ancestors did in the whole of their lives. This won't kill me.<br />
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I am eating lean meats, fish, eggs, tons of vegetables, fruit, and good fats. I think that good fats will be the biggest mind shift for me. Day 1 was good. I woke up early and scrambled 2 eggs and had sliced tomato, black coffee didn't taste that bad. My lunch was a salad with balsamic vinegar, topped with roasted chicken, skin removed. Dinner was delish, sundried tomato chicken bake with roasted brussel sprouts and sauteed spinach and mushrooms. <br />
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I made egg frittata muffins with tomatoes, spinach, basil and thyme for breakfast and had a few strawberries. I have leftover chicken and spinach for lunch. <br />
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I KNOW this process will get harder. Like quitting smoking, I expect a small meltdown some time between day 5 and 14. Like smoking, I plan to breather through it. Or write about it. I have named the sugar master the Jabberwocky. I shall heed the warning and stay the path.<br />
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Beware the Jabberwock, my son!<br />
The jaws that bite, the claws that catch!<br />
Beware the Jubjub bird, and shun<br />
The frumious Bandersnatch!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://www.jabberwocky.com/pics/jabberwocky.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left:1em; margin-right:1em"><img border="0" height="432" width="291" src="http://www.jabberwocky.com/pics/jabberwocky.jpg" /></a></div>Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-76960559021565390522011-02-18T06:46:00.001-08:002012-08-24T06:44:49.541-07:00Damn DirtThis damn dirt has stained my fingernails<br />
The dirt an the hurt of digging my own trail<br />
I wanted some help, but it was not meant<br />
But some days it feels these dirty nails <br />
Don’t even make a dent<br />
Others it feels as if these nails are really wings<br />
Let me soar and fly a trail through the trees<br />
Days that my dirty little hurt heart can sing<br />
This damn dirt has stained my fingernailsKymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-53247170237773943782010-12-19T12:18:00.000-08:002012-08-24T06:44:49.541-07:00cutterNo one knows<br />
No one can see<br />
I am a cutter<br />
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I do not use knives<br />
I do not use razors<br />
I am a cutter<br />
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My weapon is words<br />
My weapon is thoughts<br />
I am a cutter<br />
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I am abusive<br />
I am mean<br />
I am a cutter<br />
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I am more<br />
I am less<br />
I am a cutter<br />
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I am strong<br />
I am invincible<br />
I am a cutterKymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-41271066058297271192010-10-29T16:55:00.000-07:002010-10-29T16:58:09.482-07:00FullOf nothing<br />Full to the brim<br />Always full<br />Yet empty<br />Of anything<br />Happy on a whim<br />Endlessly null<br />It is missing<br />Someone to be kissing<br />Something to be making<br />A mother’s heart quakingKymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-51720713883894849142010-03-20T18:13:00.000-07:002012-08-24T07:02:54.801-07:00Well, I guess I never did my timeline, maybe looking at the whole of your life is a daunting task, so I'm just gonna take it back to 1998 and go until 2002 when I returned to Memphis. I'll have to do the next 8 years after that. Here goes!<br /><br />March 1998 - Auditioned in NYC for the American Academy of Dramatic Arts and fell in love with the Big Apple.<br />May 1998 - Accepted to AADA and was elated, not by the opportunity, but that I would get to live in my new found loves warm embrace.<br />October 1998 - Moved to NYC, OK, OK, Hoboken, NJ, but I had a view of the Empire State Building from my bathroom and kitchen window and who in NYC could afford that? I also began school at AADA.<br />April 1999 - Began working at an Irish pub.<br />May 1999 - Finished year one and AADA and I both agreed that it was time for us to part ways. I was there for NYC, and couldn't commit to the acting regimen.<br />June 1999 - Began taking workshop acting classes at HB Studios in the West Village and dating a Hoboken boy who was tattooed, mystical and nothing but trouble.<br />August 1999 - 1st visit home and I couldn't wait to get back to the city.<br />June 2000 - Moved to studio apartment in downtown Jersey City and began working at Chart House, broke up with Hoboken boy, still taking classes at HB, still believing the dream of fame.<br />August 2000 - met Wade, my soul brother at Chart House, still at HB work shopping Night Mother and got back with Hoboken boy.<br />September 2001 - well, duh, 9/11, by then living with Hoboken boy in Jersey City Heights and it was nothing but trouble.<br />October 2001- Dumped Hoboken boy and never saw or spoke to again and moved to Scottish friends apartment, still in JC Heights.<br />February 2002 - Scottish friend feel pregnant, moved in with her bf, I moved 135 ft. off Ground Zero to the city!!!!!!!! With an acting friend I had been work shopping Night Mother for only $600 a month!<br />June 2002 - Quit Chart House, earned NY real estate license and began brokering apartments.<br />September 2002 - not the best broker, unless being broke counts, burnt out on the city, went to stay with Wade in Vermont to work the fall foliage season at an Inn and figure my shit out.<br />November 2002- Moved home to Memphis, defeated, broke and in need of recreating my life at 27 years old.Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5999874077713460657.post-15993225890357294352010-01-04T10:28:00.000-08:002012-08-24T07:02:54.801-07:00Start at the BeginningSo I did it. I set it up. I named it. And here it is. The beginning. The beginning of a new decade. The beginning of my first blog. The beginning of the layout. <br /><br />I am still unsure what I will write about. But since I talk A LOT according to my husband and mother, I am sure I can find something. I have been thinking about it. What I can write abut and what I don't want to. I most definitely do not want to write about work, I think about it too much as it is. However, I may talk about ideas that are spurned from my work life. High minded questions, not just griping. i am determined this will not be the drivelings of malcontent. I want to combobulate my thoughts. I've had years of negativity and malcontent. I know I can do better than that! <br /><br />I've thought about writing about what my husband cooks for me (he is such a good cook!), but how would that relate to putting it together for myself. I think poetry is off the table at the moment, since I don't really write poetry. <br /><br />I think my first assignment is going to be a time line of the milestones of my life. Disney talks about the "power of storytelling" and has its own time line of the company. I think all too often we forget the breadth of our own stories. We don't realize the true essence of all that we have done and its cumulative effect on our mind. I think I forget that I have lived fully. I think I forget my own story. Maybe that will be the true purpose of this blog. To unravel the power of my own story for myself. Maybe even for others.Kymmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12314966462418585960noreply@blogger.com0